Have you found yourself wilting in midlife, and wondering what you might do to flourish in your remaining years? Have you lost your way in the midlife maze due to a significant loss? Did you lose your job or desired career advancement? Did you separate or divorce? Did your last child leave home? Did your family experience a virtual storm of bankruptcy or lose your life savings in a financial meltdown? Did you or someone in your family experience the loss of good health? Or did you weather the death of a family member, partner, or friend? Your loss story is personal. Your path through winding passages during midlife is unique. Perhaps the most important encouragement for your grieving process is to know this simple fact: grieving is a natural healing response to loss rather than a pathological experience.
Midlife can be a time of reflection, rebellion, or reconnecting to old or new interests and activities. It can also be a time when losses start to happen or begin to pile up – divorce, death of a loved one, loss of a job or home, the moving out and on of grown children—and learning how to move forward can be a challenge. Here, a seasoned psychologist looks at the geography of loss in midlife, the way it can affect us, and what we can do to get back on track or redirect ourselves when necessary. Through first hand stories and practical exercises, the author leads readers through the midlife maze to a place of recovery, purpose, and peace.
In The Unspeakable Loss, Nisha offers support, guidance and wisdom from others who have experienced the death of a child, as well as her personal story after the death of her beloved 17-year-old son, Victor, and her insight as a grief counselor and psychotherapist. Charting the long path from the worst possible nightmare, shock, trauma, and overwhelming pain, to a life that once again miraculously contains joy, love, and laughter, The Unspeakable Loss addresses the importance of self-compassion and self-care.
Written in a Q & A format, it goes to the heart of grief, answering the urgent questions that accompany loss. "Will my tears ever stop?" "Who am I now without my child?" "How can I help my other children cope?" "I lost my only child, how do I live?" "Will my marriage survive?" "Will life ever feel worth living again?" The book addresses bereaved family members no matter where they are in their grief process, whether newly bereaved or dealing with a death that occurred many years earlier. It provides an in-depth perspective on how the death of a child affects siblings, other family members and friends, and offers a unique long-term perspective on grief.
While books on grief have sadness at their core, this one contains invaluable hope about surviving and living a purposeful and meaningful life in the aftermath of such heartbreak. The Unspeakable Loss emphasizes love, truth and the often unspoken "signs and signals" from loved ones. It doesn't flinch from the reality or pain caused by the death of a child, yet ultimately it is a book about the choice to embrace life again.
It can be overwhelming to find out that someone you love has been diagnosed with a terminal illness. This book offers a roadmap for supporting a loved one through their end of life journey. Part I of the book focuses on the most important things in the time that remains after a loved one has been diagnosed with a life-threatening illness. Part II of the book addresses what happens after a loved one dies. The book offers practical suggestions, checklists and forms to help you think through tasks and honour a loved one before and after death. About the Author: Jeanne Sedun believes there is a better way to navigate the end of life journey. Drawing on her training as a teacher, Protestant minister and government executive, she creates a roadmap for supporting a loved one facing a terminal illness. Jeanne is an Executive Director with the Government of British Columbia with 20+ years of experience in project management, strategic planning, conflict management, and team building. She holds degrees in arts and education from the University of Winnipeg, and a Master of Divinity Degree from the Canadian Southern Baptist Seminary.
The Survivor's Family Guide is designed to provide a tool for everyone to prepare for the inevitable day when he or she is no longer on this Earth. It is an indispensable resource that anyone can complete to provide the type of information that only they have related to personal and business affairs. By using this book to share crucial information and last messages with your loved one, you are giving a lasting gift of love. It is a resource for those who are dear to you. By following the prompts within this book and providing valuable information, you can help ease the burden of dealing with your passing for your spouse or significant other. With it, they will have most of the important information that they will need to settle your estate, handle arrangements for your final departure and move on with their life. They can also refer to Survivor's Family Guide in the future as a source of important information about you.
"A truly healing book." - Glen Lord, President, Board of Directors, The Compassionate Friends
Unthinkable. Unbelievable. Heartbreaking. Whatever words we choose, they all fall far short of the reality. The loss of a child is a terrible thing.
How do we survive this? Can we?
Shattered: Surviving the Loss of a Child was written to help.
Bestselling author, hospice chaplain, and grief specialist Gary Roe uses his three decades of experience interacting with grieving parents to give us this heartfelt, easy-to-read, and intensely practical book. In Shattered, Roe walks the reader through the powerful impact a child's death can have - emotionally, mentally, physically, relationally, and spiritually.
Intense, unpredictable emotions can hijack us at a moment's notice.
Our minds spin. We forget things. It feels like we're going crazy.
Our bodies get hit. Our health can be impacted.
Our souls feel crushed, shaking our faith and what we think we believe.
Our relationships change. A deep loneliness of the heart can set in.
Our plans and dreams are shattered. We're now in uncharted territory.
Yes, the loss of a child affects everything.
In Shattered, you will discover how to...
Manage the massive changes that are occurring in your life
Take care of yourself during this process
Honor your child with your grief
Love those around you, even with a broken heart
Live life as well as possible while in the midst of great pain
Make your child's life count in deep and powerful ways
Shattered is not a magic pill. The death of a child cannot be fixed. But comfort, compassion, guidance, and hope can be found in these pages.
We will never be the same, but we can survive. And to some degree, we can heal. Shattered can help.
Someone you love is grieving. Do you know what to do, what to say, and how to help? Or do you say "I'm so sorry", pick up what everyone else does, and perpetuate the mistakes? Let this book be your personal, informative, enlightening guide. Learn what to ask, what to say, how to write a condolence card, what books to recommend, concrete actions to take, and the best ways to be truly helpful and supportive to those you care about, especially when they go through the toughest times of their lives. Make a difference when it counts the most.
From the Author: Have you experienced the deep loss of a precious loved one -- your son, your daughter? My son, Devon, left this earth Good Friday, 3/29/2013. He was 23 years old. Dev and I have always had a deep and mysterious connection. Our relationship continues on beyond his physical life and manifests in joyful, loving, and extraordinary experiences.
Our story will give you the opportunity to engage with a powerful spiritual journey while also getting to know Dev as he was in earthly life.
Amazing Adventures with Dev will offer opportunities to:
explore the transformative power of love
expand your awareness and open your heart
contemplate life after death
experience awe-inspiring realities beyond this one
appreciate the natural healing of grief
This is a moving story of Devon's life and tragedy that will inspire you by his bravery and the depth of our relationship, dazzle you by the tantalizing peeks at other realities beyond this one. This is a heart-warming and heart-wrenching story. It will bring you comfort and useful tools as you move through your life. This book of love and wonder is for you!
The author and her husband had raised their only grandson since he was one year old. Following his tragic death at age fifteen she begin her personal journey of loss, grief and hope. After futile attempts to cope with her sorrow she begin putting her feelings on paper making her grief visible. She invites others who are on a similar journey to walk with her. Together all may feel less alone.
Through a series of letters written to his son who died from a drug overdose, the author explores on various levels the experience of parenting and ultimately, losing to death, a son who drifted into heavy and long term substance abuse. The letters are personal, open, honest, informative, intimate, at some points heartbreaking, and at other points humorous. Along with providing reflection on the impacts of death by overdose, the book shows how such letter writing can be a valuable medium for processing grief and moving toward healing.
Do they have telephones up in heaven? is an anthology of poems penned during my first year in Paediatric residency to commemorate the many stories and lessons learnt from the children and families I was fortunate to work with through a myriad of rotations. There are special moments of joy, heartbreak, love, anger and lessons learnt captured in these pages. Children with life-threatening or life-limiting illnesses often lead a life filled with trials and tribulations but this collection proves that there is hope and happiness even in the darkest of times. Most importantly, these children have taught me that life is not in the medicine or in their treatments but rather life is in the humanity around them from the kindness, the care and the concern they receive from everyone around them from family to the medical team to allied health care staff. This anthology also serves as a memory to children we have lost this year. They will always be in our hearts. Life is short, let us live each day as it was our last.
A look at the spiritual, emotional, and philosophical implications of end-of-life care by an elegant and literary writer who is a hospital chaplain.
As a hospital chaplain, Amy Wright Glenn has been present with those suffering from suicide, trauma, disease, and unforeseen accidents and has been witness to the intense grief and powerful insights that so often accompany loss. She weaves together memoir, philosophical inquiry, and cutting-edge research on death/dying to chronicle how we, as individuals and as a culture, handle everything from grief to mortality.
After the death of a child, there is no closure. It is like learning how to live with an amputation---you are forever changed and need to learn how to live a new “normal.” There can be a feeling of desperation to find someone farther ahead on the path who can understand the crushing pain that makes you feel like you can’t even breathe at times.
Laura Diehl was plunged into that place with the death of her daughter, and meets the deep need to connect with others who have experienced what cannot be put into words. "When Tragedy Strikes" is the raw account of her journey from deep darkness back into light and life, extending a hand of hope to those traveling on the path behind her, who need to rebuild their lives after the death of a child.
Award winning author, Lisa J. Shultz, is of the Baby Boomer generation and lost her father, age 89 in 2015. She embraces a challenging and often avoided topic of facing the end-of-life stage of a loved one. With courage, vulnerability and love, she recounts her dad's storied life, including its difficult ending. Wrought with what she felt was unnecessary suffering in for all involved at the end, she strives to help others find a more peaceful final chapter of life.
She begins her book by providing the background of her father, a World War II veteran. Their relationship was tenuous in Lisa's youth because she was disappointed and angered by his behavior, distancing herself from him and blaming him for the sudden end to their intact comfortable family life. As a young adult and after her father's sudden heart attack, Lisa was given a second chance to heal their relationship. Over the next three decades, they became closer, enjoying time together, including travel. When her dad entered his eighties, and while still raising her own children, Lisa found herself unprepared for his steady health decline. Suddenly, she was thrust into the role of overseeing his care as he began to experience increasing disability and the beginnings of dementia.
Not having prepared for or anticipated such a role, Lisa floundered as she attempted to address his ever-changing situation. The closeness and healing they had achieved was challenged as her father resisted conversations about his failing health and his care, exacerbated by a western medical system that fell short to prepare them for the end of his life.
After her father's death, Lisa began researching and compiling information aimed at educating and supporting others who may not be equipped for the challenges and decisions that arise when those we love begin to lose their health and mental clarity. The book also reminds us of our own mortality and inspires conversation and preparation to potentially ease the suffering for ourselves and those we leave behind.
A moving tribute to a remarkable man and a daughter's experience of losing her dad, A Chance to Say Goodbye gives rise to reflections about what is important in living and dying.